媽在看我臉書?初探Facebook上的親子互動

Abstract

科技變遷帶動社群媒體的興起，尤其Facebook快速發展提供了親子互動一個新場域，家長透過Facebook了解更多子女的生活面向、最新動態，但反觀子女有著卻不想被父母親全盤掌握、監視的想法，而希望與父母親保持某種程度的關心與忽略，產生一種矛盾的心態，成為值得探討的有趣現象。家長與子女的Facebook經常性使用已日益普遍，因此，探討Facebook上的親子互動有其必要性，更進一步了解Facebook上人與人互動的樣貌、彌補文獻的不足，進而發掘兩代在使用經驗的差異性與觀念，提供後續研究一些新的啟發。\n\n 本研究採用深度訪談法，以13-18歲之間的青少年與其母親做為研究對象，共採訪12位受訪者。研究分為三個層次，先從個人經驗出發，體現親子雙方使用與自我揭露所展現的差異，其次，以Facebook上的親子互動類型分析不同的個案特色，探討親子兩代使用Facebook後產生關係變化，對現實生活中的權力角色產生何種影響？最後，扣連檢視Facebook親子互動中是否出現反向社會化現象做鉅觀思考。\n\n 研究結果發現，在Facebook親子互動初期呈現後輩教導長輩使用的反向社會化現象，而母親在使用過程接收到新的刺激與學習後，亦有長者再社會化的情形。兩代在個人隱私揭露上展現極大的差異，母親的管教方式悄悄滲入子女Facebook，親子互動類型表現在具體的面向，以「母親回覆子女留言」與「觀看子女的po文、打卡、連結」，最為凸顯親子代際衝突與觀念差距，「雙向聊天功能」是維繫親子關係願意分享、交流信任的最佳管道，「封鎖」為子女線上自我防衛的最後一道防線，現實生活中的關係修補有助於維持線上的互動平衡。

The emergence of social media, especially in highly growth of using Facebook, which was bring about by new technology, providing the new field where parents and children who can interact with each other. On the parents’ side, they can understand more aspects of lives and last news about children through Facebook; on the children’s side, however, they do not want that parents put them under surveillance through Facebook. Instead, they hope, through using Facebook, that they can keep in touch with their parents occasionally. Thus, the different expectation of using Facebook between parents and children constitute interesting issue which deserves us to study. Moreover, as for parents-children interaction through Facebook which is common phenomenon, we think that it is necessary to study this issue. By doing this , we can understand a little further about the formation of interaction on Facebook, finding the insignificance of existing literature, identifying the different experience of using new media between different generations, and inspiring follow-up studies. \n \n This study adopts in-depth interview, with literature review, which focus on 13-18 years old teenagers and their mother; total numbers of interviewers are 12. There are there parts in this study: Firstly, based on personal experience, we analyze the different experience between mothers and children, which focus on how their using experience and their self-discoursing construct different reality separately. Secondly, we construct the parents-children interaction types and, through those conceptual types, analyze the transformation of parents-children relationship, and discuss how this transformation affects power relation in every life, after using Facebook. Thirdly, from macro perspective, we consider whether reverse socialization exist in parents-children interaction on Facebook. \n\n The result shows that, from the primary stage, children do teach their mother how to use Facebook. In other words, reverse socialization do exist. At same time, there are re-socialization existing in parents’ side when mother receiving new stimulation and learning. In addition, there is huge difference about privacy issue between generations, and mothers’ parenting embeds deeply in interaction on Facebook. The most significance of conflict and of the idea gap between parents and children appear in “mothers reply message to their children ” and “watching children’s comments, place where they are, and their sharing linking.” The best way of maintaining parents-children relationship which let them will to share and trust each other is “two-way chatting function.” Instead, children will use “block” to not to share comments or linking with their parents and regard this function as their final mean of self-defense. Besides, parents-children interaction on Facebook can be improved through offline interaction in everyday life.