一位未婚成年女性的多重戀情之敘說研究---「尋求被接納與允許自我存在的空間」

Abstract

本研究使用敘說研究方法，探討未婚成年女性多重戀情的心理歷程。從文獻與實務經驗中理解到，有些多重戀情者在其中有許多負向感受（女性尤其強烈），因此希望關注在歷程中時有負向感受的女性當事人身上，給予敘說的空間。採用立意取樣由熟識的人介紹受訪者小黛，訪談與分析詮釋後發現，在說出來的故事底下，還有許多難以被說出來的故事主軸。小黛雖然本著開朗釋懷的態度，看似不受外界影響與壓迫，但其實渴望被接納，也擔心被社會評價所批判，因此說得小心翼翼，不斷地解釋與抗辯污名，並且在多重戀情歷程中持續進行自我形象的整飾。社會的負向評價不僅在訪談當時影響著故事的敘說，更在故事發生當時就扮演了舉足輕重的角色，並且已經內化為女性多重戀情者的價值觀，讓當事人被污名所壓迫，「這不是一部變心與劈腿的故事，而是一部在自我形象與感情需求的拉扯下，尋求著被允許與被接納之生存空間的故事。」\r\n最後，本研究對多重戀情現象、質性研究者與諮商員提出反思與建議。

The study was based on narrative research approach exploring the females’s psychological process of an unmarried adult female who had more than one lover at the same time. According to the research and practical experience, some people, especially the females who had more than one lover at the same time would experience a lot of negative feelings. The participator Diane was introduced by a friend based on purposive sampling. After interviewing and interpreting the story, there are some important stories under what she had said. Although she looked like optimistic and didn’t care about external pressure, in fact, she wanted to be accepted and worried about the social judgment. Therefore, she told about her story carefully, and explained her behavior again and again. Besides, she regulated her self-image all the time when she falling in love with two men. Not only influencing the narration in the interview, the negative social judgment also played a key person from the beginning. It was internalized by the female who had more than one lover at the same time, and oppressed her through stigmatization. “This is not a story talking about unfaith; this is a story talking about a person who seek to be accepted, be permitted to survive under the struggle between the self-image and the need of love.”\r\nFinally, there were some discussion about the phenomenon that a person had more than one lover at the same time and some suggestions to the researchers and counselors.